To change your life, you must change the way you think. Behind everything you do is a thought. Every believer is motivated by a belief, and every action is prompted by an attitude. God revealed this thousands of years before psychologists understood it: "Be carefully how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts."
Imagine riding in a speedboat on a lake with an automatic pilot set to go east. If you decide to reverse and head west, you have two possible ways to change the boat's direction. One way is to grab the steering wheel and physically force it to head in the opposite direction from where the autopilot is programmed to go. By sheer willpower you could overcome the autopilot, but you would feel constant resistance. Your arms would eventually tire of the stress, you'd let go of the steering wheel, and the boat would instantly head back east, the way it was internally programmed.
This is what happens when you try to change your life with willpower: You say, "I'll force myself to eat less...exercise more..quit being disorganized and late." Yes, willpower can produce short-term change, but it creates constant internal stress because you haven't dealt with the root cause. The change doesn't feel natural, so eventually you give up, go off your diet, and quit exercising. You quickly revert to your old patterns.
There is a better and easier way: Change your autopilot - the way you think. The Bible says, "Let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think." Your first step in spiritual growth is to start changing the way you think. Change always starts first in your mind. The way you think determines the way you feel, and the way you feel influences the way you act. Paul said, "There must be a spiritual renewal of your thoughts and attitudes."
Sunday, October 14, 2007
Changing your autopilot
This is extracted from Purpose Driven Life Chapter 23.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
| Your EQ is 140 |
 50 or less: Thanks for answering honestly. Now get yourself a shrink, quick! 51-70: When it comes to understanding human emotions, you'd have better luck understanding Chinese. 71-90: You've got more emotional intelligence than the average frat boy. Barely. 91-110: You're average. It's easy to predict how you'll react to things. But anyone could have guessed that. 111-130: You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt. 131-150: You are remarkable when it comes to relating with others. Only the biggest losers get under your skin. 150+: Two possibilities - you've either out "Dr. Phil-ed" Dr. Phil... or you're a dirty liar. |
Sunday, October 07, 2007
Just this morning, as i was reading the Sunday Times, i came across this photo. AHHH i recognized it instantly because i've seen this person at Maxwell Food Center just on friday!
And if that's not enough, cy sent me this. It was taken last week when i was in penang and we had went to a shopping mall to check out the malaysian idols.
And if that's not enough, cy sent me this. It was taken last week when i was in penang and we had went to a shopping mall to check out the malaysian idols.
Guess who's the introvert.
Excerpt from http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Fenn19.html
There’s intensity, focus, concentration, ignoring unimportant things in the surroundings, self awareness at all time and perhaps a noticeable lack of enthusiasm when social events are proposed. On the other hand, here are some things introverted kids won’t do: mug it up, get lost in the energy of the crowd, react to peer pressure or forget who they are.
Taken from Purpose Driven Life Chapter 16
Are you spending time with God and your loved ones?
It is not enough just to say relationships are important; we must prove it by investing time in them. Words alone are worthless. "My children, our love should not be just words and talk; it must be true love, which shows itself in action." Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is "T-I-M-E."
The essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves. The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention. Love concentrates so intently on another that you forget yourself at that moment. Attention says, "I value you enough to give you my most precious asset - my time." Whenever you give your time, you are making a sacrifice, and sacrifice is the essence of love. Jesus modeled this: "Be full of love for others, following the example of Christ who loved you and gave Himself to God as a sacrifice to take away your sins."
You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving. "God so loved the world that he gave..." Love means giving up - yielding my preferences, comfort, goals, security, money, energy, or time for the benefit of someone else.
Are you spending time with God and your loved ones?
Thursday, October 04, 2007
The Top 10 Ways to Market to Introverts (you know, the ones with the high income)
Got this from http://topten.org/public/AF/AF633.html
Statistics indicate that introverts make up 10-30% of the general population but as IQ increases, the proportion of introverts rises dramatically. Since there is a correlation between intelligence and income, you target more introverts as buying power rises. The greater the price of the product or service you are marketing, the greater the chance you are selling to an introvert. It pays to understand your audience.
There are some critical differences in the way introverts initiate consumer dialogue, process information, make decisions and put their decisions into dollars and cents.
1. Introverts are territorial. This includes their personal space.
Introverts don't like interruptions, uninvited visits or phone calls. What's new about that? you may be asking. No one likes telemarketers. But here's the difference that you need to know. Whereas extroverts will huff, puff, hit the high blood pressure button, yell, take a drink or hit somebody, they do answer the phone. Introverts get an unlisted number, a fancy answering machine and they turn the ringer off. Also they have no qualms whatsoever about hanging up on you or closing the door in your face. This is the reasoning: if you are rude enough to invade their private space, you are sub human and they treat you that way. Jackie Kennedy was an introvert who hit photographers with her purse when they got too close to her.
I don't have an unlisted number and i don't slam the door on people. And more important i don't hang up on people. I find that so rude. But if you're a stranger getting too close to me, i'll push you away.
2. Introverts love to read.
See that person over there on the cruise reading the small print on the cereal box? That's an introvert. See that woman across the aisle there, actually reading the inflight magazine? That, too, is an introvert. Whoever thought about putting advertisements in elevators and inside toilet doors had introverts in mind. Well ... it's better than having to talk to the other people in the elevator!!
Yeah. It's not just books that i read, but those small stuff...you know..stuff that you can read when you've nothing else to do
3. Introverts, despite appearances, are not shy and they are frequently not braindead just because they don't say anything while you are talking to them.
Never assume you have reached your introverted audience just because you have talked to them. As you leave (and make it quick), put a fact sheet on their desk and tell them you would like to hear from them in a few days if they have any thoughts or interest.
hmm...yeah i do need time to think sometimes.
4. Introverts are not impressed by personality.
Having none ourselves, except the one we drag out on State Occasions :-) we do not put any value on yours. Please don't be cute, peppy, positive, enthusiastic or motivating. Instead, be polite, know your stuff, get to the point, leave written material and invite a response at a later date.
Agree..don't be a fake especially. Be yourself. I see fakeness usually in salespeople.
5. The assumptions, guiding principles, underlying beliefs and expectations of introverts are so different from the extroverted majority that you may not even realize you have a bad map to the territory. May I give you a few examples.
A client of mine recently complained that her husband was impressed with a woman we'll call Monrovia because she hung out with movie stars and threw their names around. My client posed the question, "Why is he impressed with that? We don't even know these people." She was quite serious.
A young man was having trouble with his career and had failed again to establish a permanent position for himself as a commnity college professor despite talent and dedication. A peppy extrovert suggested that he make the best of it. "At least tell people you got a better offer but it won't materialize for a few more months. Do a little window dressing. That way you won't feel like such a loser." His reply: "That's ridiculous. I am very disappointed and what other people think about it makes no difference at all."
I guess i'm like that sometimes..if it doesn't affect me, why bother?
6. Introverts hate being rushed.
This means N O H Y P E. Never. Not ever. No hype.
Not only does it not work, it is exhausting to introverts because we give energy while extroverts take energy. As every introvert in the world is only too aware, people who use hype suck more energy that should be legally possible in 52 states.
I won't say i'm not affected by HYPE, but sometimes i may find it irritating or of no effect. I usually look below the hype to find out the quality.
7. Introverts are greatly afraid of making mistakes in public and of humiliation in public during a learning period.
If you have a new product or service for them to try, make sure they will be able to do this in private. Give clear instructions and a demonstration. Then leave it with them and go!
A brilliant introvert I know has many interests and hobbies beyond her career as an attorney. She is an intense amateur astrologer. As a result of her interest in astrology, she became curious about astronomy and the Night Sky. Her daughter surprised her on her birthday with a gift basket that contained a Night Sky map, a flashlight covered with red cellphane, several printouts about the mythology of the constellations and suggested that take their chairs up on the roof to get at it.
Bad idea. The woman couldn't figure out how to relate the scale of the map to the stars in the sky and became absolutely speechless with mortification and humiliation because of the presence of a third party as well.
Sound ridiculous? Not to your favorite introvert.
true..i like to find things out by myself unless you've the patience and non-critical or prideful attitude to guide me then i'm willing.
8. Introverts hate small talk.
If you would like to make an excellent first impression, be polite and come quickly to the point. Above all, don't ask personal questions and by that I mean things you think don't matter such as how many children I have or what work my husband does.
I find that i don't have an inclination to talk about myself. Most of the time i'll direct the conversation to the other party. Hmmm..i think i should change that.
9. Introverts hate phones and especially cell phones.
Don't expect a return phone call. We figure, why bother someone when we can dash off a note, leave a message on an answering machine or click off an email.
Above all else, do not use your cell phone in our presence. Introverts are hysterically vexed by what we consider this ultimate rudeness. If you want me to give it you straight, we also think you are pathetic because you can't be alone for a moment with yourself.
well...if you come out with me for 2 hours and spend 1 hour talking on the phone, then i'll be pissed unless you've a good reason why you did so...for eg..sweet talking your gf when she's angry, counselling a person against suicide or saying your last words to your dying loved one.
10. Introverts say what they mean.
No means no.
Not really...i'm flexible with changing my answers if i find a better solution.
Statistics indicate that introverts make up 10-30% of the general population but as IQ increases, the proportion of introverts rises dramatically. Since there is a correlation between intelligence and income, you target more introverts as buying power rises. The greater the price of the product or service you are marketing, the greater the chance you are selling to an introvert. It pays to understand your audience.
There are some critical differences in the way introverts initiate consumer dialogue, process information, make decisions and put their decisions into dollars and cents.
1. Introverts are territorial. This includes their personal space.
Introverts don't like interruptions, uninvited visits or phone calls. What's new about that? you may be asking. No one likes telemarketers. But here's the difference that you need to know. Whereas extroverts will huff, puff, hit the high blood pressure button, yell, take a drink or hit somebody, they do answer the phone. Introverts get an unlisted number, a fancy answering machine and they turn the ringer off. Also they have no qualms whatsoever about hanging up on you or closing the door in your face. This is the reasoning: if you are rude enough to invade their private space, you are sub human and they treat you that way. Jackie Kennedy was an introvert who hit photographers with her purse when they got too close to her.
I don't have an unlisted number and i don't slam the door on people. And more important i don't hang up on people. I find that so rude. But if you're a stranger getting too close to me, i'll push you away.
2. Introverts love to read.
See that person over there on the cruise reading the small print on the cereal box? That's an introvert. See that woman across the aisle there, actually reading the inflight magazine? That, too, is an introvert. Whoever thought about putting advertisements in elevators and inside toilet doors had introverts in mind. Well ... it's better than having to talk to the other people in the elevator!!
Yeah. It's not just books that i read, but those small stuff...you know..stuff that you can read when you've nothing else to do
3. Introverts, despite appearances, are not shy and they are frequently not braindead just because they don't say anything while you are talking to them.
Never assume you have reached your introverted audience just because you have talked to them. As you leave (and make it quick), put a fact sheet on their desk and tell them you would like to hear from them in a few days if they have any thoughts or interest.
hmm...yeah i do need time to think sometimes.
4. Introverts are not impressed by personality.
Having none ourselves, except the one we drag out on State Occasions :-) we do not put any value on yours. Please don't be cute, peppy, positive, enthusiastic or motivating. Instead, be polite, know your stuff, get to the point, leave written material and invite a response at a later date.
Agree..don't be a fake especially. Be yourself. I see fakeness usually in salespeople.
5. The assumptions, guiding principles, underlying beliefs and expectations of introverts are so different from the extroverted majority that you may not even realize you have a bad map to the territory. May I give you a few examples.
A client of mine recently complained that her husband was impressed with a woman we'll call Monrovia because she hung out with movie stars and threw their names around. My client posed the question, "Why is he impressed with that? We don't even know these people." She was quite serious.
A young man was having trouble with his career and had failed again to establish a permanent position for himself as a commnity college professor despite talent and dedication. A peppy extrovert suggested that he make the best of it. "At least tell people you got a better offer but it won't materialize for a few more months. Do a little window dressing. That way you won't feel like such a loser." His reply: "That's ridiculous. I am very disappointed and what other people think about it makes no difference at all."
I guess i'm like that sometimes..if it doesn't affect me, why bother?
6. Introverts hate being rushed.
This means N O H Y P E. Never. Not ever. No hype.
Not only does it not work, it is exhausting to introverts because we give energy while extroverts take energy. As every introvert in the world is only too aware, people who use hype suck more energy that should be legally possible in 52 states.
I won't say i'm not affected by HYPE, but sometimes i may find it irritating or of no effect. I usually look below the hype to find out the quality.
7. Introverts are greatly afraid of making mistakes in public and of humiliation in public during a learning period.
If you have a new product or service for them to try, make sure they will be able to do this in private. Give clear instructions and a demonstration. Then leave it with them and go!
A brilliant introvert I know has many interests and hobbies beyond her career as an attorney. She is an intense amateur astrologer. As a result of her interest in astrology, she became curious about astronomy and the Night Sky. Her daughter surprised her on her birthday with a gift basket that contained a Night Sky map, a flashlight covered with red cellphane, several printouts about the mythology of the constellations and suggested that take their chairs up on the roof to get at it.
Bad idea. The woman couldn't figure out how to relate the scale of the map to the stars in the sky and became absolutely speechless with mortification and humiliation because of the presence of a third party as well.
Sound ridiculous? Not to your favorite introvert.
true..i like to find things out by myself unless you've the patience and non-critical or prideful attitude to guide me then i'm willing.
8. Introverts hate small talk.
If you would like to make an excellent first impression, be polite and come quickly to the point. Above all, don't ask personal questions and by that I mean things you think don't matter such as how many children I have or what work my husband does.
I find that i don't have an inclination to talk about myself. Most of the time i'll direct the conversation to the other party. Hmmm..i think i should change that.
9. Introverts hate phones and especially cell phones.
Don't expect a return phone call. We figure, why bother someone when we can dash off a note, leave a message on an answering machine or click off an email.
Above all else, do not use your cell phone in our presence. Introverts are hysterically vexed by what we consider this ultimate rudeness. If you want me to give it you straight, we also think you are pathetic because you can't be alone for a moment with yourself.
well...if you come out with me for 2 hours and spend 1 hour talking on the phone, then i'll be pissed unless you've a good reason why you did so...for eg..sweet talking your gf when she's angry, counselling a person against suicide or saying your last words to your dying loved one.
10. Introverts say what they mean.
No means no.
Not really...i'm flexible with changing my answers if i find a better solution.
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Toughest Car
When you think about fast cars, you think about Ferrari, Lambhorghini, Porsche. When you think about reliability, you think about Renault, Audi. But when you think about Toughness, what car comes to mind?
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